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Jump to new posts Great group of men by AlexBoyd @ Yesterday at 09:17 PM

Today has been a very emotional day for me. I finally wrote my story and posted it on the survivors' forum. Once it was posted I felt very vulnerable and exposed. The sincere expressions of support today from members have really moved me. I realiz
Gay/Bi/Trans Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: DAD/SON Incest Sexual Fetish by JayBro @ Yesterday at 09:07 PM

I am just discovering this post and WOW it is quite relevant to me. My abuse occurred all throughout my teen years (beginning at 13 or 14) with hundreds of men online who used me in child porn, and afterwards I experienced two rapes and other reall
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Anger and Emotions by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 09:00 PM

Paul I am sorry you are in such a tough place right now. I can tell you it is part of the healing process. I too was angry and I found myself angry at others who were doing to others what was done to me. I learned you can walk a horse to water but
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Today I told him..... what was your reaction? by newground @ Yesterday at 08:51 PM

my wife was the first person I ever told and it probably saved my marriage. I had hidden it for five years of marriage and there was so much she just didn't understand all the crazy and the hypervigelance and the rage so often over nothing...well t
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Today I told him..... what was your reaction? by iaccus @ Yesterday at 08:50 PM

wow thats awesome Chase Eric
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Jump to new posts Re: I am back.. 8 years later by wfs3189 @ Yesterday at 08:41 PM

I am sorry that you are in pain. I joined Al-Anon last September and it really helps people in our situations. You may need to let your brother stay in his prison until he lets you know he wants your help. It will be very hard but he's probably waiti
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Today I told him..... what was your reaction? by Chase Eric @ Yesterday at 08:23 PM

The first person I told was my best friend - we were best friends since we were ten and I trusted him more than anyone else. I could not say it, so I wrote it. I gave it to him and told him to find some quiet, undistracted time and read it. He wen
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Jump to new posts Re: Reality Check by Still @ Yesterday at 07:48 PM

we killed the gofundme campaign.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Dissociating, wtf happened? by Sven @ Yesterday at 07:39 PM

im pretty sure somethig happened but cant quite put my finegr on it yet. its not ahard guess though but.. idk.. ive no details justfeelings and fuzzyness im trying so hardbut it doesnt matter i guess. if this is it... im trying to hold on but... for
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Today I told him..... what was your reaction? by iaccus @ Yesterday at 06:46 PM

Today I told my best friend about my CSA. I have known him since I was a little boy. I think he took it well and even he pointed out that it explains things like why I didn't want him to come over to my place. I asked him if anything untoward had hap
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Trying to calm down - he lied again by WontGiveUp @ Yesterday at 06:11 PM

Mishka - I always liked that description of how a relationship works. They really are like accounts. My account has had too little deposited, and too much taken out. I hope that changes soon. I am still extremely full of rage right now. But tryi
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: does the lying ever stop? Really struggling here. by WontGiveUp @ Yesterday at 06:07 PM

AlexBoyd - you sure do jump to conclusions. Oh, by the way, he is a member here, and he does access my posts, and can log in on my account any time he wants as he has every password I have. I have no interest in humiliating my husband and have s
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Jump to new posts Re: does the lying ever stop? Really struggling here. by AlexBoyd @ Yesterday at 05:55 PM

WontGiveUp, In repsonse to your two questions. First question: no, I don't need to read more of your posts to reach my conclusion. This thread is enough. Notice again, how he asked for your permission to quit his job. Second question: of course it
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Jump to new posts Re: i love you by Sterling @ Yesterday at 05:55 PM

I wish I knew how I dlook at men. I don't kiel you grow waya. shcold dhit this sdidd\ dsssssss i don't want to stare at his penis. i don't lwant . thiso like them. tey ehy wnawant sex have it thru biille and mier. het e u. gorabnls
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Jump to new posts Re: does the lying ever stop? Really struggling here. by WontGiveUp @ Yesterday at 05:54 PM

I should note - that my statement to Mishka about ""HE IS A F@#&^%^KING LIAR" is anger and rage at his inability to be honest. I have a right to feel that way. And its 100% truth. He IS a f*(&^^*^%@! Liar. And he is the onl
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Jump to new posts Re: does the lying ever stop? Really struggling here. by WontGiveUp @ Yesterday at 05:51 PM

Hi Castle - Actually, yes. I just wasnt going to foot the bill (esspecially with a 400$$ a month habit when I am stretched thin trying to recover from a 30k loss on my house in another state. And he knew that before he moved back in and before he q
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Trying to calm down - he lied again by Mishka95673 @ Yesterday at 05:40 PM

You can't build an ideal life, that is for sure. Processes have to be put in place to protect the relationship from the lies, and to protect the individuals. It would be a lot of work, more work than what interests me. I balance that with the idea o
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Jump to new posts Re: i love you by Sterling @ Yesterday at 05:31 PM

I l wanted don't lii.. don't look at me. dth is why billy gets to be a girl. her mom swithched her person body and gave me a female one. stupd saw it and made sure I ate billie mom food. and I swallow. I hate swallowing. and then we go home. &quo
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Jump to new posts Re: does the lying ever stop? Really struggling here. by Bluedogone @ Yesterday at 05:21 PM

I don't want to be "piling on" with my comments, especially at a time when you're so distressed. But here is an observation. Maybe he's acting like a child about the smoking because you're treating him like a child. Most children, (and
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: does the lying ever stop? Really struggling here. by Castle @ Yesterday at 04:33 PM

Lying sometimes is related to trust, or lack there of. Could he, safely, really just say he wanted to smoke?
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Feeling hysterical and out of control by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 03:47 PM

Don -- I am proud of you for getting out as much as you can. That is a huge step forward. I have no advice, just love and support to send you just as you send it to everyone else. You're a great guy! Mike
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: does the lying ever stop? Really struggling here. by WontGiveUp @ Yesterday at 03:43 PM

Hi AlexBoyd, I appreciate your reply. I pointed out the quitting smoking on "his terms" was because I waited for HIM decide if he wanted to quit, I waited HIM decide when he wanted to quit, and I supported his efforts to do so. My problem
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Feeling hysterical and out of control by Bluedogone @ Yesterday at 03:21 PM

Don, Over time you've offered so much love, support and encouragement in your posting, and I'm sorry I don't have any quick fix answers now that you have this feeling hysteria and out of control. I hope some of the above suggestions will be helpful
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: does the lying ever stop? Really struggling here. by AlexBoyd @ Yesterday at 01:38 PM

I'm going to be blunt, and you are not going to like what I have to say. He is lying because you are a control freak. The first red flag was when you stated that his previous attempts to quit smoking had always been on his terms and his choice. Why
Survivor Stories
Jump to new posts Before, During, After ***Triggers*** by AlexBoyd @ Yesterday at 12:36 PM

I have been fretting too long about the best way to present my story. There is no smooth narrative or chronology. Iím going to give a basic overview and then some specific memories. The memories are still coming, with one arriving just a week ago. T
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