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Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: This American Life: Interview With A Pedophile by pufferfish @ Yesterday at 11:30 PM

Hey JayBro Most who experienced MKUltra either do not realize it yet, as was my case until recently, or they are terrified to say anything. They may have experienced several forms of control to keep them quiet. Types of control might have included
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Jump to new posts Re: Trying to understand masculinity by JayBro @ Yesterday at 11:25 PM

Originally Posted By: TheBobcatAgain JayBro - You wrote, " is through vulnerability and other non-stereotypical male traits that I have been able to re-affirm my masculinity." Can you explain that to me? It sounds useful. Your idea of
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Reconnecting with the Church Myself on This Easter by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 11:04 PM

Reconnecting with the Church has been a process. I have met with the Diocese and parish, a Jesuit priest who brought me into the chapel where I attended Mass in college, attending Christmas Midnight Mass and this weekend the Easter Vigil Mass at the
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bumps Along the Way by JayBro @ Yesterday at 10:15 PM

Thank you everyone so much for your really insightful and helpful commentary. I absolutely agree with the image of our wiring being overloaded and getting mixed up while we try to get things in the "right" order. And yes, sexuality is a bea
Jump to new posts Re: Trying to Start by BuffaloCO @ Yesterday at 08:37 PM

Wow, awesome and kind words, they mean a lot. Each of you helped me too, and you can know that this new me is in part because of people like you and others here. I will never forget that. I hope this change for me has not hurt anyone either as I d
Jump to new posts Re: WOR by thevision @ Yesterday at 07:28 PM

Matt, I want them back, too I want to watch all 6'6" of you to play with abandon again I want to hear your laugh again I want to see your joy again I want you to still be here with your brothers I'll treasure the short time we had I'll miss yo
Survivor Stories
Jump to new posts Trash Sex by Jed777 @ Yesterday at 06:49 PM

I need a way to get this out that is safe. I am grateful that I can put this out here. It was my birthday. It was a Sunday afternoon. I went to a gay bar where someone was playing the piano. I love to sing. I remember singing at the piano. I ended
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: My Brother Shot His Head Off by Jed777 @ Yesterday at 06:35 PM

Thank you all for your support!
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Privacy - a question by Cam76 @ Yesterday at 05:36 PM

I was wondering how you balance your partner's need / desire / right to privacy with other people's concern / your need to talk about things / people's questions. My husband is in the hospital right now and I will be seeing my family for Easter. Wh
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Healing Circle Cancelled - Sunday April 20, 2014 by Anomalous @ Yesterday at 04:54 PM

Hi Guys, Out of consideration for those observing the holiday, the Healing Circle will be cancelled this evening, Sunday, April 20, 2014. It is scheduled to resume on Wednesday, April 23rd. Anomalous
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: Sexual charge post trauma by gaatt @ Yesterday at 02:33 PM

HI Dark Empathy, Originally Posted By: dark empathy I do wonder how many other people use mb as a direct control over unpleasant physical reactions, sinse after all being male makes those reactions obvious to abusers so it is reasonable to reduce th
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: What is Health? by gaatt @ Yesterday at 02:25 PM

Hi Dark Empathy, I've experienced the odd couple that works well too. The way I tell is (similar to your method) by how I feel in their presence. If I'm at peace with both partners, I know they've got something good going on. This is quite rare, how
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Penn State in the news for all the wrong reasons by ShortedDiode @ Yesterday at 02:22 PM

This was emailed to me by my best friend who is a Penn State graduate. Yet again, Penn State's in the news for all the wrong reasons: Florida State Case Unneded Distraction For Penn State So it sounds like Florida State did a total whitewash job
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Jump to new posts Re: Trying to understand masculinity by DavoSwim @ Yesterday at 12:29 PM

Hey I've read this thread several times and it resonated with me. I've been trying to figure out what it means to be a man. I keep thinking that real men don't let themselves be abused. I keep thinking that I lacked masculinity and that led to ab
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: This American Life: Interview With A Pedophile by JayBro @ Yesterday at 11:49 AM

Hey Puffer, I cannot even begin to fathom what your life experiences have been like dealing with your abuse. From what I gather, resources and understanding of the concept of CSA were just taking off 30 years ago. You are a pioneer in this field!!
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: New MJ Album Includes Song About Child Sex Abuse by catfish86 @ Yesterday at 10:35 AM

There are certain hallmarks and patterns that can tell you the truth. Studies of pedophiles generally find that the vast majority are not "one-time" perps. In fact one study suggests that the average pedophile racks up over 100 victims in
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: The Bar Keeps Moving by Airmid @ Yesterday at 10:29 AM

Thank you both. What really gets me is that while I know re-entering the family dynamic is piecemeal, it hurts. His involvement with the family as a whole is coming first, and he wants my admiration for that. (I give it, absolutely.) Meanwhile, I'm
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: My Story. by concerned_husky @ Yesterday at 09:43 AM

Teba, There is a definition of child sexual abuse that has helped me a lot in conceptualizing and properly labeling my past: "Inappropriate sexual remarks made to a minor by an adult; ogling of a child or teenager by an adult; an adult's expos
U.S. & World News
I didn't read the article, and I want to make it perfectly clear that I believe this person was raped, however there have been cases where people have made up stories of rape/abuse. I know firsthand because my folks were falsely accused of abuse upon
Survivors of Female Abuse
Jump to new posts Re: What is Health? by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 05:40 AM

Hi Gaat. while I would agree that society has a massive bias into pushing men particularly to simply glorify the act of reproduction for it's own sake, at the same time my major problem is I am certain there is more than this involved. I have an

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