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Jump to new posts Re: Shame Binding by justplainme @ 5 minutes 39 seconds ago

Try and make time to listen to this, i'm sure you will not regret it.
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Jump to new posts Re: Don't know what to think by Jude @ 23 minutes 50 seconds ago

OCN, You are exactly right. Anything you do with this should be on your own terms. Not your brother's, your father's, or anyone else. Great job. Jude
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Therapy -- Does/did it "work" for you? by Jude @ 28 minutes 9 seconds ago

I have spent years in therapy, wasting both the therapists' time and my own. You don't make much progress in therapy if you never tell them the truth. So I think being honest is one part of what can make therapy successful. The other part is finding
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Drugs as Suicide Alternative by Jude @ 46 minutes 5 seconds ago

Still, For 30 years, drinking and drugs were my medication of choice for coping with the pain from all my baggage. In one sense it worked well, kept me alive, and got me through each day and night without having to feel or face anything. But in an
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I'll volunteer to chair. I suspect the outcome of the UK scandals will end-up exactly the way the Canadian cases have: Long, drawn-out hearings of no consequence, stretched over such long time periods that victims expire or are scared-off. Eventual
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Drugs as Suicide Alternative by Still @ Today at 12:28 AM

Originally Posted By: Nothing ManWould I suggest drugs (of which alcohol is one) over suicide? For me, the answer was that the alcohol use was a form of slow suicide. I knew I was killing myself, and so did my wife. It helped me cope but had I not re
Male Survivors
Dan, I can understand your feelings about this. Its one of those situations where afterward you thyink of all the things you could've should've said or done, but at the time you just kind of freeze. Just don't share a room with this pair again. The
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Shame Binding by focusedbody @ Yesterday at 11:26 PM

Originally Posted By: justplainmewhenever your soul is in pain you have to work at a geological rate, in other words be as patient as possible. There is a kind of painful earthiness to the feeling of being misled about something innate and biologic
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Attraction to specific type of men- reason? by don64 @ Yesterday at 11:21 PM

Thank you guys for continuing this topic. I don't have anything to add right now, but there are things here that feel like they are fertilizing and watering places in me that are helping me somehow. Perhaps it's just permission to not have all the
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Feeling so much old sadness as things improve by don64 @ Yesterday at 11:09 PM

Tbkkfile, thanks for the well-wishes, and I hope you don't give up on having satisfying, personal, passionate expression in your life. Kevin, thanks for reminding me that as I clear on this old, difficult and previously hidden stuff, I create larger
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: outraged that friends had sex when I was asleep. by don64 @ Yesterday at 10:50 PM

Hi Dan, As I get older I feel like I can't change anyone else, only myself. Righteous indignation can feel great, but the two things you say all have to do with you. You were drunk, and you did not see to it that you had your own space. This may
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bad Night Upcoming Family Group Session by don64 @ Yesterday at 10:40 PM

Hi Sorryson, It has taken me into my 60's to clear enough of the poison of my family of origin out of my system to understand that I also have the power to keep that energy out of my life in my external world. Two things have happened in this proce
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bad Night Upcoming Family Group Session by tbkkfile @ Yesterday at 10:40 PM

My wife says to me that I have to move on and think of myself to heal and to stop trying to change how my Mother and that side of my family thinks. I owe it to my loving wife and my children as they are like yours sorryson - the cycle stops with me.
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Attraction to specific type of men- reason? by metsfan257 @ Yesterday at 10:20 PM

Hi All, I see some recent posts in here, all good to read, thanks. I didn't realize my original post was over 2 years ago - it makes me realize how little has changed in that time, lol. I haven't made any strides in understanding or repairing mysel
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Bad Night Upcoming Family Group Session by sorryson @ Yesterday at 10:20 PM

Thank you for the support. We are making progress but with each step more memories return as well as bad feelings. Realizing Mama and her family made us lie about what we did to Dad makes me sick. They knew and told Mama to lie and then Mama and m
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Therapy -- Does/did it "work" for you? by metsfan257 @ Yesterday at 10:02 PM

Your post is literally my life except for I'm in my 30's lol. I'm in the same boat right now - I have a female therapist who I've been going to for four years now and feel comfortable talking to her, but if I look at it objectively, I think it's obvi
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts outraged that friends had sex when I was asleep. by takingitslow @ Yesterday at 08:12 PM

possible trigger warnings *********** I was sleeping in a single bed and my two friends start having sex in a double bed like 10ft from me when they could have gone to a different room as there were loads of free rooms available. (we work in hotel
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Therapy -- Does/did it "work" for you? by SurvivingMe @ Yesterday at 07:59 PM

hey guys -- Just wanted to say "Thanks" to everyone who responded. I've read and re-read (and re-read again!) your comments and I appreciate your openness and words of wisdom. I've decided to move forward with a new T so I've made an appo
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Re: Can coffee aggravate PTSD? by KMCINVA @ Yesterday at 07:48 PM

I have read where stimulants can aggravate PTSD. I am still coffee free and had turned to green tea but now if I have three cups a week it is a lot. I have not been troubled as in the past with the nightmares and flashbacks. Is it the lack of coff
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Drugs as Suicide Alternative by Nothing Man @ Yesterday at 07:07 PM

Hi Still. Great post and great question. I started with alcohol at age 16 and when I got started, I really got started. I never drank socially, I drank to get drunk. In college I experimented with pot and really liked it but quit using it when my
Health and Wellbeing
Jump to new posts Re: Can coffee aggravate PTSD? by Brian Leggiere @ Yesterday at 06:33 PM

Its HALT- hungry, angry, lonely, tired.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Don't know what to think by OCN @ Yesterday at 02:55 PM

For the first time after the abuse came out, i decided to stay away from my brother (one time abuser). He was here in town today and my father told me he probably wanted to visit me, but i didn't feel like it - especially because of the rage and ange
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Drugs as Suicide Alternative by Magellan @ Yesterday at 01:22 PM

I can so relate to this post, Still. Thank you for saying it. I came to understand that my using kept me alive. I was so psychologically messed up by my childhood experiences, that I knew I was totally screwed up by the time I was 11 years old. Thou
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Jump to new posts 7 Dwarfs Mine Train on-ride video by Obi @ Yesterday at 01:14 PM

Our on-ride video of the 7 Dwarfs Mine Train ride that my wife and I rode during our honeymoon last week. if you look closely you can see us in the 4th car back seat.
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Jump to new posts Re: So this is me by Luther @ Yesterday at 12:58 PM

Thanks, all of you, for the welcoming words and for sharing. I don't know how often I'll post here... seems like I need to review every potential post in my head for days beforehand. Slows down the process :-) I didn't mention, I have seen a few d
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