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Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by lapchinj @ 44 minutes 39 seconds ago

Hey jaybro Thank you for your kind words. Like you say we all deserve not to be haunted by our past. I've been in therapy for 2-1/2 years and also on meds about as long. I think that most people with a our types of backgrounds start out by not sayi
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by JayBro @ Today at 05:17 PM

Hi Jeff, Thank you for sharing with us your triggers and thoughts on this too. It looks like you and I were commenting on this thread at the same time! Those are some very serious triggers that you described. Have you addressed them before in a the
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Finally kicking my abuser in the teeth (in mind) by NoSimpleMachine @ Today at 04:44 PM

Thank you for your thorough thoughts, traveler. Don and KCM also spoke to this concept that's been in the back of my mind a lot lately. It comes down to externalization. It seems to me that the more you put your expectations of happiness and progres
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by JayBro @ Today at 04:38 PM

Hey Todd, Thank you for sharing with us your triggers from child pornography. That was certainly not an easy task to do. While your triggers are numerous and can be quite immense, it certainly is good that you have learnt some techniques to help cur
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by lapchinj @ Today at 04:22 PM

I've been thinking about the term "kiddie porn". I would like to start off by saying porn is porn. Where and when this term was introduced I really don't know but throwing in my 2 cents it might have started in the pre '70s when there were
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Good Triggers by highflight @ Today at 02:40 PM

I also have audio cues that make me feel at ease and comfortable. I had never considered them to be "triggers" as there's such a bad connotation with that, but I think you're right. Now I'm going to have to look for more positive triggers
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Stuck by PhoenixRising @ Today at 02:02 PM

You will make it work. When I first went to CVTC for a Men's Group, I was in NYC. Then I started back in individual but I was 2.5 hours away which required a 30 minute drive, a 2 hour train ride and a walk. There were times I didn't think I could mak
Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: Attraction to specific type of men- reason? by 1islandboy @ Today at 01:19 PM

I have been thinking a lot about this same topic as of late. My thing is this, "Hurt people, hurt people"....with this in mind. I have an attraction to bodies of men that fill the role of "Father Hunger", that I so desperately d
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Stuck by Anony_mous @ Today at 12:46 PM

I have recently been experiencing a flooding of memories (in bits and pieces) and am currently waiting help from a place I've found on this site. The reality is, I have been asking for help for 20 years and I have never found any sort of relief or ev
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Public to the rescue! ****TRIGGERS***** by Still @ Today at 11:20 AM

Originally Posted By: ObiDoesn't matter, still. Those kids, like us, are just expendable to the almighty nfl/dollar. That may sound sarcastic to some, but people generally want Ugly, Nasty, Troublesome, Painful stuff to go away, especially when the
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Public to the rescue! ****TRIGGERS***** by Obi @ Today at 10:32 AM

Doesn't matter, still. Those kids, like us, are just expendable to the almighty nfl/dollar.
Off Topic
Jump to new posts Re: Well Sh**!! by tbkkfile @ Today at 09:30 AM

You know what Still, I didn't know that, pretty much every town over here has a skate park for the kids, I know of 3 within a radius of 5 miles from where I live. We had to be good at something I guess
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts MN Vikings Lose Again! by Still @ Today at 09:28 AM

You hear that "someday Karma comes home to roost." CSA Survivors ARE Karma! And we're roosting!
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Jump to new posts Re: Well Sh**!! by Still @ Today at 09:17 AM

The Skateboard craze in England seems to have greatly given way to scooters. Boarding is way down in consumer spending. The private parks are struggling, but the UK is THE single most outstanding nation on the planet for providing public skateparks!
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Public to the rescue! ****TRIGGERS***** by Still @ Today at 08:58 AM

The "That's How I Was Raised" defense. They are pouring that argument on quite thick these days. You notice that? It's a Southern Black cultural thing. "Well, that's the south." "Well....we were all raised that way." D
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Public to the rescue! ****TRIGGERS***** by Still @ Today at 08:51 AM

This society in the USA worries, disappoints and scares the heck out of me. The fact that at least 50% (but realistically much higher) of all Joe Sixpacks AND their SIgnificant-other will express agreement with the Peterson beating. I'm reading and
Spirituality and Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: healing through forgiveness by traveler @ Today at 07:20 AM

i think it is a process - and a continuously renewable DECISION. i also see it as an ongoing disentanglement from the bondage to the abuser - or cutting myself free from the past and the acts and connection to the perps and becoming independently an
Male Survivors
Originally Posted By: NoSimpleMachineI'm trying to focus on the positive that my subconscious has owned the abuse to the point where I know my abuser did something really horrible to me and I have the right and the reason to feel really angry about i
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: Up From Pain by toddop @ Yesterday at 11:59 PM

Hey Eirik, Yeah this article really resonated with me too. I'm glad it spoke to you as well. I liked this passage: Quote:I had to make a choice: drive forward on the broad road toward the unspeakable or take the narrow highway exit. I donít know
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: big breakthrough out of learned helplessness by focusedbody @ Yesterday at 11:26 PM

Don: Sorry I missed this, but it sounds positive..............! The other thing I wanted to mention is that about the P.S. Frequently I will go through some very intense feelings. Well, hell, it's every day! Sometimes I am on the floor, on my st
Sexual Abuse/Exploitation In Media
Jump to new posts Re: Triggers and How to Handle Them by toddop @ Yesterday at 11:25 PM

Hey JayBro, Thanks for starting this topic. I find that it is hard to separate triggers that occurred in the course of CSA from just those that are outcomes of the child pornography. I think they are so enmeshed at times that I cannot distinguish t
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: There'ss comfort knowing I'm not alone by Dave PNW @ Yesterday at 09:55 PM

Lumpy.... aka Kirby. Welcome to MS. I am hopeful you will find this community as supportive and insightful and empowering as I have the last 17 months I have been here. I am sorry your life experiences made this place a necessary wayside for you, but
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: I don't know what I'm doing with my life by kcinohio @ Yesterday at 09:52 PM

Originally Posted By: WriterKeithSo much I can relate with in your post here, SilentNL. In short, here is my career struggle: POTENTIAL EMPLOYER or EMPLOYER Tell us about yourself. ME
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: Work in Progress by kcinohio @ Yesterday at 09:39 PM

Thanks for your introduction. I hope you continue to find MS healing as you continue along your path.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Go confidently in the direction of your dreams by kinghenri @ Yesterday at 09:33 PM

What a crock of shyte Okay a few positives first. I'm working full time making just barely enough to eat. I'm taking care of my 14 year old brother. He stays with me half the week. I have been lifting weights for 6 months and I'm starting to look
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