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Jump to new posts Re: nothing is everything by Shyshark @ 14 minutes 58 seconds ago

Beautifully written ben ... and painful to read. I for one see your light ... you are not a shadow to me. I follow your path across the sky ... and sometimes I am lucky and catch up ... and join you for a while. Shawn
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Jump to new posts Re: Dissociating, wtf happened? by KMCINVA @ 32 minutes 17 seconds ago

Sven I have blanks in my life for a long time. Generally a few minutes to maybe an hour. I just thought it was part of life not remembering. When the abuse was unraveling the blanks would be longer in duration. The longest was almost three days. Th
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Jump to new posts CPS and Child Trafficking by Still @ Today at 02:12 PM

Watch and listen if you dare to learn some very hard truths. Most normals will ignore this. And likely, most survivors will as well. Note: "this is bigger than the drug trafficking and arms trafficking combined." I'm playing this as one
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Jump to new posts Dissociating, wtf happened? by Sven @ Today at 01:37 PM

What if you don't know if something happened or not? I mean not years ago like so many of us are struggling with. But yesterday or last week. I don't know if i'm starting to imagine things or not. Or what to do about it
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Jump to new posts Re: Dissociation and anxiety by iaccus @ Today at 12:42 PM

Well said focusebody!
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Jump to new posts Re: Pain by Robert1000 @ Today at 12:35 PM

Things will work out, HD. And that's not magical thinking. The truth is that change is hard. It doesn't matter if it's good change or bad change. It's hard. It makes sense that you'd be sick with worry. You're leaving the known for the unknown. But y
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Jump to new posts Re: Pain by HD001 @ Today at 12:21 PM

Eh I'm not doing great. I feel really weird the last day couple days. I'm not sure what is going on with me. I feel so sick to my stomach all day everyday. Maybe this is what is feels like to slowly stop loving someone. Or maybe my marriage has been
Jump to new posts Re: My Introduction - Looking for new Beginning by Bluedogone @ Today at 11:51 AM

Hi Lalinda, Welcome, and I hope you have much success in your quest for a new beginning. I suppose there's no really good answer to your question "Why has this happened to me," but you've found a great place to experience support, unders
Jump to new posts Re: ambigram by RichNewman @ Today at 11:47 AM

Dear Victor, These are wonderful. I'm looking forward to reading more of the poems you have posted on the site. Cheers! Richard
Jump to new posts "Covenant:" A poem from "The Silence of Men" by RichNewman @ Today at 11:43 AM

Hi Everyone— I wrote this poem about ten or fifteen years ago, not too long after my son was born. It was a liberating poem to write, a way of giving shape and meaning to a rage I'd been carrying around for a long time. If anyone's interested, It's
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Jump to new posts Re: Accountability Partner by Mishka95673 @ Today at 11:20 AM

Have you checked with NAMI? They offer all sorts of things
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Jump to new posts Re: Dissociation and anxiety by KMCINVA @ Today at 11:17 AM

FB said it well. I have suffered dissociation but for me it would be a total disconnect from the present. I have no memories of what occurred during this time. Thus the triggers which included triggers sent me into the state of dissociation. There
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Paul Thanks I was told the same thing, behavior needs to change and also boundaries need to be in place and respected, if not keep the distance. Only time will tell,but while I wait I am going to live life to the best I can. I will let you know if
Jump to new posts nothing is everything by bey @ Today at 10:03 AM

when i was growing up i was everything i was the sun and the moon all things revolved around me and i spun around all things i burned so bright i had to squint my own eyes my skin red and blistered from my own rays the gravitational centre of our uni
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Jump to new posts Re: Stuff you can't talk about by Sven @ Today at 09:56 AM

Originally Posted By: gettingstronger Last point I want to make: Imagine you're trapped in the wilderness and the only means you have to survive is cannibalism. Who in their right mind would condemn you for wanting to live? And even if you felt yo
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Jump to new posts Re: Stuff you can't talk about by bey @ Today at 09:40 AM

thanks a lot everyone, really. i actually feel more relaxed about it after reading your replies. i think for now its enough to say 'a bad thing was done to me, i can't talk about it but it really hurt me and i'm still scared and messed up about it&
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Jump to new posts Re: Stuff you can't talk about by bluesky @ Today at 09:27 AM

Ben I like you had a secret that I carried around for about 39 years it was and still is very painful and I still feel shame and gilt for it. I do know it was not my fault but my mind will mess with all my rashinatlzations my logic can not win out a
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Jump to new posts Re: Perspectives by traveler @ Today at 09:24 AM

Originally Posted By: PhoenixRisingI am beginning to understand why other survivors call each other their family..I guess I just never wanted to give mine up..but in truth I dont think they were ever what I thought they were. Phoenix - i can only s
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Jump to new posts Boundaries are so hard to enforce - but necessary by Mishka95673 @ Today at 08:32 AM

Been struggling with an issue the last few days. My boyfriend and I are barely together...he isn't in a place where he can fully be in a relationship. He is terrified of being in a relationship with me...he is a genuine commitment phobe. He isn't rea
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Jump to new posts Re: Who's in chat? by Nothing Man @ Today at 08:25 AM

I have found this to be useful. Thanks Sven. Mike
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Jump to new posts Re: Stuff you can't talk about by Nothing Man @ Today at 08:18 AM

Ben, I also feel as you do. I have my own sins and demons to deal with and they cause much shame and anxiety. But talking about them helps. I hope you can find someone you trust enough to share your secrets with. Bringing them out into the open an
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Jump to new posts Re: Physical and Psychological Conditions from CSA by sorryson @ Today at 08:08 AM

Kevin My sister told me when she was going through her counseling with the doctors and counselor, Dad went to a few sessions. She told me Dad was also seeing a counselor and had been warned not to get too attached to my sister because there was no gu
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Jump to new posts Re: Perspectives by Nothing Man @ Today at 07:59 AM

PhoenixRising, your post really resonated with me. I too am underemployed, which in my case means I am working a low-paying job for which I am supremely overqualified. But I am also incapable of finding work more suited to my university qualificatio
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Jump to new posts Re: Can Taking Breaks from Recovery Be Healthy? by Nothing Man @ Today at 07:52 AM

Hello James. I am a firm believer in doing everything in moderation, including moderation. If you have reached a point where dealing with recovery has become burdensome, then I think you should take a break from it. But give yourself a limit on yo
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Jump to new posts Re: Opinions Please by motmcd @ Today at 07:37 AM

Thanks for your supportive words, sorryson. I appreciate it. Seven years in the seminary makes it easier for me to run a full-court press on bishops. I see them as peers. Of course in my younger days that wasn't the case. I gave them far more re
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