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Sexual Identity Issues
Jump to new posts Re: The Nose Knows by NoSimpleMachine @ 57 minutes 58 seconds ago

I rank myself about a 5 on the Kinsey scale, mostly gay but a handful of girls here and there catch my eye...but it's very true, the smell of women just doesn't do anything to me. The smell of a man, in an intimate setting, is a hard-wired turn-on.
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Jump to new posts Re: Decision by Vedder32 @ Yesterday at 09:00 PM

well I solved the dilemma. I am not going. my needs are far greater than the ordeal. just didn't care for the message I got back in return from others.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: what is masculinity? by finallyhere @ Yesterday at 08:15 PM

Dark Empathy - my sincere apologies. I never intended to equate what I experienced with yours. Although my abuse dealt me a blow of its own, I always fear that I let it affect me more than it should have especially when I learn what so many have had
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Alone and Feeling Isolated by PhoenixRising @ Yesterday at 07:08 PM

Thank you for your words. There is at times a nostalgia for what I thought was, and the space that is left without it. That being said, I am realizing that to try to remain in relationship with them, denies my relationship with the abused child I wa
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: What shall I say to them? by ALovingMum @ Yesterday at 05:51 PM

Thank you so much for your replies. @Esposa - No, this was not said by a therapist or in respect of giving my son therapy, it was said with a view to say that child sexual abuse is not harmful to the child. And that the child should be forced to go
Books, Music & Films for Survivors
Jump to new posts Thanks guys! by jj78 @ Yesterday at 05:37 PM

I'd like to thank everyone for their interest in the Songs for Survivors thread which just surpassed 100,000 views. When I started this thread nearly 4 years ago shortly after joining, it was my way of expressing my feelings and thoughts about my
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Please help me by Going forward @ Yesterday at 04:33 PM

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through I have lived such a similar life that I can relate to everything you are feeling. I would like to share a few things with you; as much as we want to know every detail of the lies and infidelity at this
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: Alone and Feeling Isolated by kcinohio @ Yesterday at 04:15 PM

Hi Phoenix, Yes, making the decision to distance oneself can be difficult. Sometimes, it is the only way to open oneself up to a better experience. I've found no matter what I do, I only have 168 hours in a week. If time and energy go somewhere, eve
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: what is masculinity? by 1islandboy @ Yesterday at 03:28 PM

WoW, this is a really smart post... With all the emasculation and feminization I received, the subject of masculinity really messed me up. What it is not. I certainly tried a few of those. Chasing the hyper-masculine dream. What a waste of time.
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: what is masculinity? by dark empathy @ Yesterday at 02:13 PM

Finalyhere, thanks fot he encouragement, however bare in mine my abuse wasn't entirely at the hands of boys, it was literal public gang rape by teenaged girls with a good serving of s/xual humiliation. That is why I say were I female and the gender
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Catch 22 by Carol Ann @ Yesterday at 01:44 PM

Thank you Sugarbaby for your words of support! Sometimes the stress of feeling like I'm responsible for breaking up the family gets to be a bit much. One good thing though, my son did check out this site one time and I am hoping that he will come bac
U.S. & World News
Jump to new posts Re: X-Men director Bryan Singer accused of abuse by Still @ Yesterday at 01:43 PM

Originally Posted By: OcellarisAs a follow up to the Bryan Singer case, we have another survivor who can't find justice in the legal system. I feel for Michael Egan. If anyone wonders why so few survivors every report their abuse, it's because of out
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: My regret is growing everyday by Still @ Yesterday at 01:36 PM

At this point, what does a new university student want? IMO: any familiarity accessible, any support to not feel alone in a very strange world with no reasonable break from it, someone to talk who already knows him. A "fixer" of problems th
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: What shall I say to them? by Esposa @ Yesterday at 01:35 PM

I have to say I have heard of this. I have heard of therapists of young children try to de-stigmatize abuse in order to lessen the trauma of it. In Latin America, where 1 in 6 is more like 5 in 6, this is a very common therapeutic approach. For ex
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Please help me by HD001 @ Yesterday at 01:29 PM

Hello. I don't know how much I can help but sometimes just knowing you aren't alone offers some small comfort. My previous thread was about my lonliness. I've tried so hard to reach out to H despite the lies that continue to be uncovered. This la
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: What shall I say to them? by VASurvivor @ Yesterday at 12:13 PM

I am so sorry that this is happening. I am not savvy on the legal side of things, but it sounds like you need to consult an attorney who has experience handling sexual assault cases. Additionally, I would contact a private child psychiatrist of yo
Ask The Website Committee
Jump to new posts Re: What shall I say to them? by Chris Anderson @ Yesterday at 09:58 AM

ALM, Please email me directly at canderson@malesurvivor.org. It will be helpful for me to know where specifically this is and any other details you can share (please don't post that here, but rather put in the email).
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Jump to new posts What shall I say to them? by ALovingMum @ Yesterday at 08:07 AM

I need your help again please: I was told by the court appointed guardian for my children that any child that has been sexually abused should not be allowed to have a negative view of the abuse or that abuser if the abuser is the father!!! So a chil
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts What shall I say to them? by ALovingMum @ Yesterday at 08:06 AM

I need your help again please: I was told by the court appointed guardian for my children that any child that has been sexually abused should not be allowed to have a negative view of the abuse or that abuser if the abuser is the father!!! So a chil
Male Survivors
Jump to new posts Re: what is masculinity? by finallyhere @ Yesterday at 08:06 AM

Davo - I completely understand your request for respect in return. I too have a strong faith. Many of us probably do, did or maybe want too yet the things we have experienced without having answers or feeling so, so alone conflict with our actions, t
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: A bit about me. by Bluedogone @ Yesterday at 07:09 AM

Hi woodenshoes and welcome, I think you've written more than you'll ever know. There's just something liberating about writing, or about saying to someone, or even saying to yourself the words - I was abused. It's the first step (and a damn impor
Introductions
Jump to new posts What shall I say to them? by ALovingMum @ Yesterday at 05:58 AM

I need your help again please: I was told by the court appointed guardian for my children that any child that has been sexually abused should not be allowed to have a negative view of the abuse or that abuser if the abuser is the father!!! So a chil
Humor
Jump to new posts Re: lawyer jokes by ALovingMum @ Yesterday at 05:28 AM

LOL...how true! Thanks for making me laugh.
Introductions
Jump to new posts Re: A bit about me. by wild_turky @ Yesterday at 04:49 AM

I feel your pain stay strong keep moving. First step taken.
Family and Friends
Jump to new posts Re: Visitation by ALovingMum @ Yesterday at 04:16 AM

What???? If you still need this please go to Dr Claire Reeves. She is a highly respected expert in this field and she will be more than happy to help you. Her website address is www.againstsexualabuse.org and you can reach her there by clicking con

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